I just found this site that is a confidential crisis referral resource for First Responders and Emergency Services Personnel and their families (thats a big one 'cause lots of places do not seem to help the families of First Responders out...and as an example, ptsd affects members of ones family as well...everyone need to be helped, not just the person suffering) safecallnow.org and its safe call now on good ol' facebook
I found one more site that looks really helpful too,lots of good stuff on it. If either of you could post it for me ..thanks guys www.CopsAlive.com