| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com hi there, i am very concerned that a local community will hire my sil as a police officer because of her gender. She is a volatile person due to extensive abuse as a child. In the past she has had a suicide attempt, been on multiple anit depressive medications and has had difficulty holding a full time position outside of working for family members. My concern is that since she is a resident of this community, female and many people "feel bad" for what's she been through, is there anything i can do to make people aware of my concerns. I really feel that given a position of authority and with a gun no less she would one day "snap" and hurt someone who makes her angry. any suggestions? thanks katelyn |
| Originally Posted by fjmas1976 I suggest you mind your own business and stay out of it. If there really is something in her past/background that isn't kosher the background investigator will find it and red-flag her. Are you a psychiatrist? What are your qualifications in judging her? If my brother/sister fuc--d up a job opportunity for me (even if their concerns were valid) I would never forgive them. Try supporting your sister.....if she's had a tough life maybe a little backing would be nice. |
| At any given time, one in four adults and one in five children experience a mental health problem. |
| Actually i would think a person in a position of authority should be a morally sound, stable person. |
| Originally Posted by no$.10 Some bitterness here towards the sister in law? Give the PD credit, just because she took the test and is on the list does not mean she's going to be hired. I am sure that if she is not fit for duty, she will be washed out in the hiring process, or at worst, in the academy. Otherwise, there is nothing you can do, as any negative statements you make will be eyed with more than a little suspicion. To be honest with you, you already sound like a jerk. |
| Originally Posted by Wolfman http://www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/p...18/default.asp So if the three people nearest you seem OK... Yeah, and one might think that elected officials should be beyond reproach, courts will punish the guilty, and people would have an innate desire to contribute productively towards a happy and safe society. Now who's being delusional? |
| Originally Posted by no$.10 Some bitterness here towards the sister in law? To be honest with you, you already sound like a jerk. |
Couldn't agree more | Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com Actually i came here in hopes that mature, responsible adults would respond with answers to my concerns. Unfortunately your thread indicates an immature person with alot of anger towards others which may be why you are pursuing a career in law enforcement. Vengence is not a drive towards success just another step in the road to failure. |
| Originally Posted by fjmas1976 Couldn't agree more |
| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com Not delusional, realistic. I treat people like you on a daily basis. People who think that because of their poor lives they deserve something special not by working for it or being mature, intelligent human beings but just by being on the sympathy parade of "poor me", "i can't cope" "i need a break". Ironically the people who are actually in law enforcement respond in a mature, objective manner. The wannabee's let their juvenile self esteem take over and attack others because that's how they've always dealt with differing opinions and concerns.... |
| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com Not delusional, realistic. I treat people like you on a daily basis. |
| People who think that because of their poor lives they deserve something special not by working for it or being mature, intelligent human beings but just by being on the sympathy parade of "poor me", "i can't cope" "i need a break". |
| Ironically the people who are actually in law enforcement respond in a mature, objective manner. The wannabee's let their juvenile self esteem take over and attack others because that's how they've always dealt with differing opinions and concerns.... |
| Unfortunately your thread indicates an immature person with alot of anger towards others which may be why you are pursuing a career in law enforcement. Vengence is not a drive towards success just another step in the road to failure. |
| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com Actually i came here in hopes that mature, responsible adults would respond with answers to my concerns. Unfortunately your thread indicates an immature person with alot of anger towards others which may be why you are pursuing a career in law enforcement. Vengence is not a drive towards success just another step in the road to failure... ...Not delusional, realistic. I treat people like you on a daily basis. People who think that because of their poor lives they deserve something special not by working for it or being mature, intelligent human beings but just by being on the sympathy parade of "poor me", "i can't cope" "i need a break". Ironically the people who are actually in law enforcement respond in a mature, objective manner. The wannabee's let their juvenile self esteem take over and attack others because that's how they've always dealt with differing opinions and concerns.... |
| Do you know me? Who I am, what I do, how old I am, am I single, married, straight, gay? |
| Originally Posted by fjmas1976 In case you haven't noticed this isn't the Dr. Phil message board here. We joke around, discuss issues, and give each other a good kick in the ass when it is needed. If you're looking for kindness and caring and warm fuzzy messages try the Oprah site. |
| Originally Posted by Gil katelyn If many people know of her situation then the pd will also know. Questions will be asked and depending on how she answers will set the stage for the rest of the background check. If your called as some sort of reference for her character then so be it, speak your mind but other than that I would stay out of it and leave it to the officers conducting the background investigation. This is not your standard call a few past employers reference check. Many departments go to great lengths to disqualify applicants. If she has issues be assured that they will find it, either in the background investigation, the academy or during field training. |
| Originally Posted by 7MPOC Hey strive4more, in case your wondering Im not a wannabee Im a full time cop along with what I think is a majority of the people who have posted to your comments. Ironically as you would say, we all handle our profession in a mature, responsibile, objective and honest manner. We have to because it is our job. Its this time on the board we can joke and have fun because its tough to do while on the job. And nothing is better to come home from a double and see some nut posted nonsense about her sister in law. I imagine that she is "taking" the job from you or someone your close to and your trying to find out from other cops what kind of info you can use to get her the boot. I say there is nothing better to seeing this when Im tired and half asleep becuase I know when I wake up and check the site the my brother/sister officers and the true comedians on this board are going to have nothing but the "best" advice for you. Believe me when I say Im looking forward to checking in on this thread. Im especially looking forward to MACOP's response. |
| Originally Posted by Wolfman Oh, this is so delightful - are you a doctor? Probably not; a doctor would know that "a lot" is in fact two separate and distinct words, and there's an "a" in "vengeance". Rudimentary vernacular aside, you "treat" people like me? What kind of person may that be, pray tell? Do you know me? Who I am, what I do, how old I am, am I single, married, straight, gay? My education, my background, my ethnicity - come on, you have all the answers, tell me about me. I'm dying to hear it. Maybe we should change your screen name to "Madam Zelda". Did your Magic 8-ball tell you that I don't work for what I've achieved? If you were in fact realistic, you would see the underlying truth behind the feedback you are receiving here. If our opinions differ, I will say so. If that offends you then cry me a river, baby. As I and others have said many times on this forum, this is not the place to come if you're looking for a shoulder to cry on. I eagerly anticipate our next round of cheerful banter. Overwhelm me with your superiority. And as long as you'd like to "treat" me, I prefer hazlenut, black, extra sugar. |
| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com Thank you for your reply, this helped quite a bit. |
Don't know what got into me.... | Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com funny i knew by your response you were a copy wannabee. good luck with mbta, i hear arresting people who ride the train free does wonders for low self esteem. |
| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com good luck with mbta, i hear arresting people who ride the train free does wonders for low self esteem. |
| Originally Posted by strive4mores@yahoo.com Oh you poor thing you worked a double.....SUCK it up buddy, be a man, everyone works doubles and i haven't seen anyone else whine about it like you. Hey who knows maybe next time a sexual predator applies for a position you will be on the bandwagon to hire them since they've had such a "tough" life....god dr. phil would love you, "poor me, i worked a double and am so tired'" |
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